The son sadly talked about the most difficult period when starting a career when he was young without the support from his father’s inheritance. After reading it, netizens left poignant comments.
There are many bloody lessons after dividing assets among children. That is, elderly parents then have to live in loneliness and poverty. Therefore, children and grandchildren should be self-reliant instead of trying to target their parents’ assets to burn things out. In fact, there are many people who, after receiving an inheritance, instead of burning the stage, they burn their assets, losing their efforts and striving in life.
Recently, reading on VNE, I saw the confession of a man telling a story about how he felt “it was meaningless because at the age of 45 he received a land inheritance of 2 billion VND”. Feeling concerned, I want to share this story with netizens’ comments so that everyone can have more perspective in life.
Specifically, the man said that when he was 45 years old, his father (then over 70 years old) sent him a message to return to his hometown to discuss inheritance division. Accordingly, his father gave him a piece of land worth about 2 billion VND. Normally, anyone who is given such a large fortune will be delighted. But this man is different, he feels there is little meaning other than celebrating this as inheritance land. Because the land does not support his current life too much anymore.
Remembering the past, he said that he got married at the age of 24, and like his brothers and sisters in the family, his father divided the land but only verbally and did not prepare any papers so he could not use it. About ten years after getting married was an extremely difficult time for him. Young people with nothing have to carry a young wife and young children, a small family to live in, working hard day and night, not daring to rest even for a day.
Realizing that working for a company did not have enough money, he boldly turned around capital and started doing business. Thanks to hard work, the young couple finally succeeded, had enough money to send their children to school, and were able to buy a house to live in and 2 more plots of land far away.
Because he had something to eat and earn it himself, he felt satisfied. Father’s 2 billion piece of land has only just been given away, so according to him, it’s okay to give it away, it’s okay not to give it away. Furthermore, if at some point he needed money and wanted to go back to his hometown and sell the inherited land to make ends meet, he would have a reputation for living superficially and selling the land left by his parents.
The more he thought about it, the sadder he became and wished his parents had let him inherit this land sooner. When he was young, when he first got married and had children, he would have had a stepping stone to move forward, burning down the period of his efforts. , save time, don’t have to work so hard. It’s like you think, if you give it to your child anyway, why don’t you give it to your child sooner to ease his suffering? What’s the point of giving it at 45 years old when everything is in place?
I don’t know about everyone else, but personally, I support the parents’ approach in the man’s story above. Firstly, depending on circumstances and personality, each parent will have their own way to love and support their children.
Some people help mainly emotionally, some people provide finances and relationships, some people let their children be self-reliant… Either way and sooner or later, it’s a choice. According to their considerations, children have no right to demand when they are over 18 years old.
Second, inheriting large assets from parents too early can easily cause children to become dependent and reduce their efforts to strive for themselves. Sometimes in the extreme, people make the ultimate breakthrough to succeed. We should thank our parents for being stubborn and not being indulgent, thanking us for all the difficult years that made us grow up and build our current wealth instead of blaming our parents for the late inheritance. No asset is too late, that piece of land can be saved for investment, retirement, or as a talisman to be saved in the future for children and grandchildren…
However, it must be said again and again, parents should also consider appropriately depending on the circumstances and situation. If your children are not the type of people who are debauched, don’t know how to strive, have weak abilities… then giving them some capital and assets early to support them in doing business and getting rich quickly is also a good idea. reasonable.
Adults are often afraid that their children will be vulnerable to fraud and business failure when they are born without experience, so they are afraid to give them their assets. They want to preserve that property themselves so that they can give it to their children later so they can feel secure, so there are cases like the man above. In my opinion, those who have been in similar situations should learn from experience and express each other’s wishes for consideration. Avoid being silent and not understanding each other so that parents don’t trust you and your children whisper blame.
I would like to quote some outstanding comments from netizens:
– The family that raised you wisely gives you inheritance money, you must know how to appreciate it!
– Don’t blame your parents for just now receiving the inheritance! Who can guarantee that that land will be a “stepping stone to move forward” at the age of 24? Who comes from nothing without sweat and tears? If the children have not reached the end of their lives, it is reasonable for the parents to keep the land as insurance.
– At 24 years old, people haven’t been able to go to work for long and still have a career to build, but you get married and have children. Having to take care of your wife and children takes your energy, right? I don’t know what you blame your parents for? People are really greedy, their parents raised them, grew up and went to work and thought they should give them money at the right time.
– Known as the son of a rich family who owns a shop in the district. After I got married, my parents promised that my husband and I would work with them for 5 years and then let us live on our own. For several years, we lived together without work and had to ask for money for everything we bought and spent. After working for nearly 5 years, I asked to pay my salary and go out on my own, but my grandparents told me to work another 10 years and then give me 100-200 million as capital. So my husband and I left the country together. It took me a long time to get my wedding gold back. After nearly 5 years of effort from the couple, my parents paid 10 million. When I left, my husband and I did not have the means to bring our children with us, so we had to send them to our grandparents, but my parents did not help even a single penny. In the early years, my husband and I had to share a portion of the food, lived in a shared bathroom, and had no money. enough money to send home to take care of my children. But I don’t dare open my mouth to complain to life for fear of people’s tongues criticizing me. I have no right to ask for my parents’ money, but thinking about it makes me feel bitter about my life.
– You need to understand the basic thing that parents are only obliged to raise their children until they are 18 years old. After that, you have to earn your own money and survive. After the age of 18, any penny given by parents is a reward, a gift from parents, with no right to demand. You blame your father because he is really old now, so what have you done to take care of your father?
– I think it’s too early for your father, who is only 70 years old, to transfer names to his children. There have been countless cases where, after dividing assets among their children, they immediately considered their parents as a burden or debt, pushing them wherever they could. In your case, after receiving more than 2 billion and still blaming and resenting your father, to be honest, you don’t expect to take care of your parents at all.
– You need to understand that now working to make money is to accumulate assets, not an obligation to give to your children. The current trend is to save money for old age to live without depending on children, and the excess will be given to children after death.
– Grandparents left it like that for their children and grandchildren. Even if you fall into trouble, you still have a way to return to your place of refuge. If given early as a stepping stone, will that stepping stone shorten the path to success or suddenly disappear into thin air? Now you can say anything about success, but back when you failed, there was no such article.
– When you are 24 years old, you will inherit. It can turn you in another direction, not necessarily as good as now. The age to be mature enough to hold property, I think 40-45 is beautiful.
– I myself was born in the city center. Years before liberation, my house had a TV and a Honda. Saying that to show you that my house, the elders can also be called conditional. However, I was born after finishing college and struggled everywhere. They were still mad at me for not letting me buy land. The first piece of land I bought had to be hidden from them. When I built my own house, the elders were still angry, I said “let me step into the world, if I fail, I can still go back to live with my parents”. Looking back now, I call it okay, my children have everything that many people are still striving for, but they also see it as normal and do not need it. Now they still live in that house and they still have some real estate, but my brothers and I are each on our own and don’t need their support after graduating from college. In short: strive and go with your own feet, don’t rely on even the thoughts in your head.
– If you don’t need it, you can donate it to the locality to build a school, or give it to someone to keep the incense burner…
– So I ask you, when your child turns 18 years old, will you divide your existing assets in a notarized document or will you still keep them?
– My biological parents want to divide the inheritance, but my wife says I refuse to give it all to my siblings because my wife only likes what she makes herself. I agree 100% with her.