“It makes me so sad, girls. Getting married later is such a disadvantage. And then I met a bunch of unreasonable friends, so I lost everything.”
I was excited thinking that I would get some money after the wedding, but it turned out to be a huge loss. I got married late and met a bunch of friends who didn’t know how to behave. I thought that since we were close and brought the whole family over, the wedding money would be generous, but they were all equally mean.
I’m 32 this year, at this age I’m not young anymore, my friends all have children, some even got divorced and married someone new.
But I was busy working, and I was also quite pretty, so many guys were chasing me, so I just dated freely, had fun, and then thought about getting married.
Every time I go out and see my friends bringing their children along, I feel scared and tell them:
“I have to be 35 to get married. Seeing you guys carrying your children is terrifying, losing all your freedom.”
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I am a sociable person. When I was in school, I was always a class monitor, so my friends loved me very much. Even after graduating, I still maintained friendships with groups of friends from elementary school, middle school, high school and university. I played in the same way in each group, and sometimes we would meet up to eat, drink and sing for fun.
I plan to wait until my youth to get married, but my parents are urging me too much. They keep asking me when I will bring my boyfriend home. To be honest, I have dated a few people before, but they weren’t compatible, so we broke up.
There was a rich man who was very fond of me, but his family urged us to get married too soon. At that time, his father had cancer and was about to die, so he told me:
“Dad wants you to get married before he passes away, so you can rest in peace.”
I don’t agree to get married early, being tied down to a family will only bring suffering, so I refused. Looking back, all my old loves are married, and the young people don’t love me. As for the old, single men, they’re either crazy or stupid.
It was only later that I met my current husband. He is a country boy who came to the city to study and then stayed here. My boyfriend works as a hired worker and only earns a little over ten million a month. His house in the countryside is poor so he still has to rent a room.
But I had no choice but to get married. Marrying a poor man, I had to worry about a lot of expenses like wedding photos, wedding rings, and everything else, it was really tiring.
I also organized a party at a restaurant, thinking this was an opportunity for me to earn some capital so that after the wedding, my husband and I would have some money in our pockets.
My original guests were 50 tables, friends from childhood to university, still in contact now, all were invited, then colleagues, social friends…
The wedding day was really crowded, ladies. But the annoying thing is that before, everyone invited me to their wedding, I tried to come, but they always left 500k in envelopes, and I couldn’t come, so I sent 300k.
Not to mention my close friends, sometimes I have to give 1 million or 2 million in envelopes. Now that the currency is depreciating, you should know to add more to the envelopes at the right time, right?
But I’m usually so open that my friends like me and bring their whole family. I invited one person but my friend brought 2 or 3 people so it took up a lot of space.
When I counted the envelopes, I thought I would get a lot, but when I opened them, there was only 500k. When my husband and I used the money to pay for the wedding expenses, we still had to make up for the loss of more than ten million.
Thinking about it makes me so angry, getting married later is such a disadvantage, and meeting a bunch of unreasonable friends makes me lose everything.