Mr. Hoang Hong H (36 years old, in Nam Dinh) used to be very strong in “that matter”. He shared that if his wife agreed, he could have sex every day without feeling tired.
During a recent drinking party, when he showed off his “achievements” to his friends, everyone praised him for being strong. However, everyone also warned that having sex too much can drain his vitality and reduce his life expectancy.
Since then, Mr. H has been sleeping separately from his wife, only “doing his homework” for his wife 2 to 3 times a month. Seeing her husband’s change, his wife suspected that Mr. H was having an affair, so she questioned him. When her husband explained, his wife found it reasonable, so they both changed their sexual habits to stay healthy.
The husband was afraid of shortening his life so he stopped having sex, making his wife suspicious. Illustrative photo.
Doctor Nguyen Trong Hoang Hiep, Hanoi Center for Gender Medicine, said that the idea that frequent sex affects health and reduces life expectancy is incorrect. On the contrary, regular and scientific sex also brings many health benefits such as improving mood, reducing stress, improving cardiovascular health…
According to Dr. Hiep, a person is considered to have too much sex when it negatively affects their physical or mental health, causing fatigue, lethargy, and mental tension and stress after sex.
Doctor Nguyen Trong Hoang Hiep gives some warning signs that you need to reconsider the frequency of sex to keep your health safe as follows:
– Feeling pain or discomfort during sex: If you experience this condition, you should stop having sex immediately and see a doctor to find out the cause. Persistent, dull pain during sex can be a warning sign of the body.
– Feeling exhausted, tired, lethargic, stressed after sex: If sex makes you physically exhausted, mentally uncomfortable or anxious, stressed every time you are intimate, you should stop. You may have a physical or mental health problem and need to see a doctor soon.
When you feel stressed or forced during sex, stop. Illustration photo.
– Sexual relations under compulsion or duress: If you feel pressured, uncomfortable during sex, or unable to control the frequency of your sexual activity, you should talk to a sexologist.
This could be a sign of behavioral-psychological problems that need to be addressed. If this condition persists, it can easily lead to consequences such as sexual apathy, decreased libido, depression, etc.
Safe frequency of sex
According to the Kinsey Institute, the average frequency of sexual intercourse in the US is 112 times per year for 18-29 year olds, 86 times per year for 30-39 year olds and drops to 69 times per year for 40-49 year olds. In Vietnam, Dr. Hiep said that there is no general limit on the frequency of intercourse for everyone, but it depends on the health, lifestyle, age and preferences of each individual. On average, for couples of reproductive age, the average frequency of intercourse is about 2-4 times per week, which is reasonable.
According to Dr. Hiep, the frequency of sexual intercourse for each individual is considered appropriate when it meets the following factors:
– Make yourself happy and comfortable: Regular sex that suits you can contribute to improved physical and mental health, including improved mood, reduced stress and better cardiovascular health.
For couples who are comfortable and consensual, the frequency of sex will increase significantly. Illustration photo.
– Feel enjoyable and consensual: The frequency of sex should be appropriate for you and your sexual partner, ensuring that sex is enjoyable and consensual rather than seeing sex as an obligation or responsibility.
– Balance other aspects of life: Make sure that the frequency of sex doesn’t interfere with other important areas of your life, such as work, relationships, and personal responsibilities.
– Physical comfort: If you or your partner are feeling uncomfortable or painful during sex, it is a sign to adjust the frequency of sex as well as need help and advice from sexologists.