My husband lost his job a month ago and has been staying home to take care of our 5-year-old child. With his abilities, it should not be difficult for him to find a new job, but he doesn’t want to go back to work yet. Because my husband has worked hard for the past 15 years, he has rewarded himself with a half-year of rest and recuperation at home and wants to spend more time taking care of our child.
Since my husband has been at home, he has helped me with many chores. Every day he takes the kids to school, cleans the house, does the laundry, bathes the kids, and goes to the market to cook. If there is a broken chair, table, or fan in the house, he fixes it. He does everything on his own without needing to be reminded by his wife.
When he has nothing else to do, he takes out his phone to relieve his boredom. Usually, I see my husband playing games or watching action movies. But last Friday night, when I came home from work, I saw my husband watching “adult movies” with a small child beside him.
My son asked his father what movie he wanted to watch, and he answered very smoothly:
“Dad is watching an action movie.”
My husband thinks that the child is still young and doesn’t understand anything, so watching a little porn is fine. Illustrative photo
Seeing my son wanted to look, I turned pale and quickly ran to grab the phone right from my husband’s hand and turned it off.
I told him if he watches porn again I will confiscate his phone.
Because we didn’t want to argue in front of our child, we went into our room and closed the door to talk.
I don’t stop my husband from watching porn, but he can’t watch it when the kids are around. The kids are growing up, curious by nature, and their thinking is not yet complete. If they accidentally watch it, who knows what they will think or do?
My husband said I was worrying too much, the child was still young and didn’t know anything, and besides, they forgot what they saw, how could they remember it? I said that children learn bad things very quickly, so parents must live a decent life so that their children can learn from it.
I thought that if my wife talked so much, my husband would understand, but last night my child whispered in my ear about his father’s sins:
“Dad is watching an action movie again today, Mom. Confiscate his phone.”
What my son said really made me angry, and soon after that my husband and I had a big argument. However, my husband still defended his opinion as correct.
He thinks that the child is still young and doesn’t understand anything, so watching a little sex movie is fine.
In your opinion, is my husband’s point of view or mine correct?